I’ve had this thought lately that I’m not living up to my midlife potential. Like I should already be somewhere else on my journey, on my goals.
This is a terrible thought because when I think it, I feel shame and guilt that I’m not somewhere else. That I’m not further. Then I procrastinate and beat myself up.
Then a coach told me this:
Your midlife potential is always in the future.
Now, this is one of the many reasons I love coaching. Coaching helps us see what we can’t because we are always bringing our past into our future. When we are wanting to achieve new things it’s easy to say:
- I’ve never done this before.
- I’m not living up to my potential.
- I’ve tried and it didn’t work.
- I don’t know how.
All of these thoughts are based on our past. Coaches haven’t lived our passed so they can show us our potential and possibility without attachment.
They help us move forward faster because they help us clean up what’s showing up from our past that is blocking us from getting what we want. They make it easier for new thoughts and ideas flow to come in and create the results we want.
It’s like the other day when our pipe under the house was plugged. Water couldn’t flow through. It was backed up because of all the nasty sludge from the past. As soon as we got the old icky sludge out, the freshwater easily flowed through at a quicker speed.
Our minds work the same way. When we want to create something new in our life we have to clean out the old icky sludge so new beliefs, thoughts, and ideas can come through.
I hesitate to say it, but maybe coaches are a little like plumbers?
We help clear out the old so the new can flow in. That’s what good coaches do.
We don’t tell you what to do, you can Google all that. We help you see what’s holding you back so you can see that your midlife potential is in the future and figure out why you are not there now.
Potential is where you could be but aren’t there yet.
It’s not where you should be now.
Think about it; potential is something that’s currently inactive. It’s not yet fully expressed. That’s why it’s potential and not reality or actuality.
A bud has the potential to become a flower. It is not yet a flower. Once it’s a flower, it does not have the potential to become a flower, it already is one.
Unlike a flower, you always have more potential to grow into even in midlife.
You can never live up to your potential because your potential, by definition, is always some future growth and evolution that you have not exceeded yet.
And thank goodness, right? Because without potential, there would be nothing left to learn or develop or explore.
If you are a midlife woman who thinks all of her potential is behind her you are wrong. It’s in your future.
This is so freeing because as you’re supposed to grow into. You are supposed to have undeveloped potential. At any moment in your life, you are supposed to have the potential to develop into something more.
The potential to reach whatever midlife goal and dream you have; to lose weight, improve your health, find love and companionship, create a business you have the potential for it.
It’s just a matter of cleaning out the old to get there.
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