I can’t believe we’re halfway through the year. Are you on track with the goals you set, or do you feel like you are failing? Are you creating the results you want and moving forward on your midlife goals and dreams, or are you stuck and stagnant? If this is you read on because I’m going to tell you how to use failure to move you forward.
It’s easy to start out the month or the year thinking it’s possible to achieve our goals because we have so much time, right? But as time goes on and we go back into thinking thoughts like:
~I don’t know what to do.
~It’s not working.
We believe these thoughts are true, and because we don’t want to feel the emotions they generate, so we quit and fail. We fail not because of action we did take that didn’t work out but because we quit.
The truth is failing is a skill we need to build to achieve the success we want to achieve.
Failure should be celebrated, but unfortunately, we’re taught to avoid failure because it’s bad. We associate it with negative emotions like disappointment, discouragement, fear, judgment, rejection.
We associate it with red marks on a paper and being kept after school.
Let’s look at what failure really is and how you can use failure to move you forward.
There are two kinds of failure.
The first I want to share is an Escape Fail. An escape fail is exactly what I’ve been talking about. It’s failing ahead of time. Some characteristics of escaping failure are:
*Changing your mind
*Not following through with your commitment.
*Justifying your inaction
When these things are in your action line, you stay stuck, spinning, starting, and stopping or never starting at all.
These actions don’t produce anything useful.
The second type of failure is what I call a Worthy Fail.
A worthy fail is when you take the actions you committed to, and they didn’t create the result. Not because you escaped failing and the negative emotion but because the action you took simply didn’t work.
If I’m learning to ride a unicycle I take the action of getting on and trying, and I fall off I failed. But instead of escaping failure, I get back on. I evaluate what worked, what didn’t, and what I can do differently.
A worthy fail is a fail that gives us useful information you can learn from to move forward.
You might fail again, but when you are willing to learn and try new things, you stay in action. You aren’t stuck and spinning and telling yourself all kinds of un-useful things.
Being willing to fail in a worthy way gets you results, and you are not looking back at the end of the month wondering what happened and why you didn’t get the results you were so hopeful you’d have.
It’s how you use failure to move you forward.
Failure is a skill. When you learn it, you move forward. When you avoid it, you’ll never reach those goals and dreams.
Failure is a skill I teach my clients and work with my clients on so they can stop letting the negative emotions associated with failure stop them and reach their midlife goals and dreams.
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Think you’re committed to your midlife goal and dream, but find yourself questioning that commitment?