Lots of my clients come to me wanting more confidence and belief in themself and that they can really achieve the goal they have, and I help them create that. One of the first things I teach them is that there is a difference between confidence and self-confidence.
Confidence is something we already have in our ability because we’ve already done the thing so many times we’ve mastered it.
I like to think of pouring water. I bet we are all confident in doing that. We don’t make spilling mean we can’t do it. We just clean it up and pour again.
Buying milk. I’m confident I can do that. If the store relocates the milk to a different area I don’t make it mean I suck at buying milk I just figure it out. I have the confidence and belief that I can because I have so many times.
Self-confidence is what we have to develop when we are doing new things and going for new goals. We have to build self-confidence by being willing to fail or do things wrong. We build it by learning to make decisions and commit. We build it by learning to have our own back and feel crappy emotions.
We typically can’t find self-confidence from the past because we are creating something we have never created before. We have to look to the future for what is possible.
As we increase our self-confidence we become more confident. It requires courage and it’s completely worth it.
What would you create with more self-confidence? Are you willing to take the steps to create more self-confidence and achieve it?
I know what it’s like to set a big goal and try to believe it’s going to happen, and in my capacity to make it happen then ride the struggle bus every day to believe it can when everything around me seems like evidence it won’t.
Creating self-confidence to believe from the future when I can’t yet see it changed everything!